According to the Alzheimer’s Association, more than 7 million Americans age 65 and older are currently living with Alzheimer’s disease, making it one of the most significant health challenges facing older adults and their families today. This month we raise awareness about the impact of Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia, while highlighting the importance of funding, research and support for the individuals and families whose lives have been touched by the disease.

At Touchstone Communities, we understand that Alzheimer’s disease affects more than memory. It impacts relationships and emotions for both individuals living with dementia and the people who love them. We witness the interactions between our residents in memory care and their families, and we strive to help them create moments of connection, understanding, comfort and reassurance. Although Alzheimer’s disease can change the way families communicate and connect, small adjustments in how you approach visits can help create more meaningful moments together.

Making the Most of Visits With a Loved One With Alzheimer’s Disease

Visiting a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia can sometimes feel overwhelming, emotional and frustrating. Families may worry about saying the wrong thing, feel sad when treasured memories fade or struggle to find ways to communicate.

The most important thing to remember is that just being there for your loved one matters. Even if they don’t remember every detail of a visit, the feelings of comfort, connection and companionship often remain.

Focus on Connection Rather Than Correction

One of the most helpful ways to reduce stress during visits is to avoid correcting or arguing with a loved one who is confused or remembering details incorrectly. Dementia changes how the brain processes information, so trying to force someone to remember a name or event correctly or “come back to reality” can increase anxiety and frustration and cause embarrassment.

If they confuse timelines or names, focus on the emotion behind what they are expressing rather than the accuracy of the details. If they repeat a story, ask questions about it.

For example, instead of causing embarrassment by saying:
“You already told me that.”

You might respond with:
“That sounds like a special memory,” or
“Tell me more about that.”

Taking this approach can help conversations feel less frustrating, more positive and more meaningful for everyone involved.

Keep Conversations Simple and Be Present in the Moment

Speak slowly and clearly, using short sentences and simple questions. Give your loved one extra time to process and respond — patience is key. Providing them with too much information or speaking too quickly can feel overwhelming.

Instead of focusing on what has changed, focus on what you can still share together. A walk outside in a garden, listening to favorite music, looking through photos or simply sitting and talking can create meaningful moments of connection.

Watch for Signs of Fatigue or Anxiety and Be Reassuring

Long visits or overstimulating environments that are too noisy or chaotic can sometimes increase confusion or agitation. Be in tune to your loved ones’ emotional state. If they seem tired, agitated or overwhelmed, try moving to a quieter space or shortening the visit. The quality of the time spent together is more important than the quantity. A shorter visit that feels calm is better than a longer visit that ends in frustration.

People living with Alzheimer’s may experience fear, uncertainty or confusion, so a reassuring  tone of voice, eye contact, a smile or holding their hand can provide comfort and peace.

Manage Your Expectations

The reality is, some visits may end in frustration, despite your best efforts to remain calm and reassuring. Your loved one may be having an especially difficult day, or you may be dealing with a stressful situation at work or with other family members. Try to appreciate the small moments of connection, laughter and joy, and continue to show up for your loved one, even if every visit isn’t perfect.

Touchstone Communities Provides Compassionate Memory Care Tailored to Your Loved Ones’ Needs

At Touchstone Communities, we are honored to provide quality, compassionate, personalized care to our residents in memory care in Texas. At The Heights® of Bulverde and Stone Oak Care Center, we provide Lonestar Memory Care, a compassionate, safe, secure space for residents experiencing cognitive challenges who require skilled nursing care.

During Alzheimer’s and Brain Awareness Month — and throughout the year — we remain committed to helping residents live the highest quality of life possible while supporting the families who walk alongside them. Contact us to learn more.